Tag Archives: Dr. Chad Sharkey

August 25, 2019

I feel like such an old lady. I missed church this morning because of my back, or more specifically, my right leg. I am in constant pain right now from what we believe is sciatica pain. I am unable to sit in an upright position for long periods of time, so unless Pastor Fred is okay with me sprawling out over several chairs, I missed today’s message. Praise Jesus I have another appointment with Dr. Sharkey tomorrow. Until then, I’m going to be flat on my back with an ice pack and a lot of prayers.

Annadelle in prone position after CPT.

Annadelle stayed home with me because she is fighting off a cold. She came home from school with a runny nose so I have been on high alert. I am constantly checking her O2 levels with a pulse oximeter, checking her temperature, loading her down with vitamin C, rubbing all kinds of oils over here, throwing together a blend in the diffuser (frankincense, lemon, and thieves), running the humidifier 24/7, putting her prone and doing some CPT, and following her around with tissues telling her to blow her nose. I have reached peak paranoid mom.

Annadelle at school (first grade)

Since going back to school, we haven’t been able to schedule her for any therapy in Fairhope. She is scheduled for a quick PT appointment tomorrow so we will know more about a future schedule after that. I sent a message to the special education director for Baldwin County schools this week asking when her PT and OT evals were going to be completed. She said she would forward my email on to someone else and that they would work on scheduling that.

I also asked about plans to make the playground accessible. This was a topic of conversation during all of the IEP meetings we had and I was assured it would be accessible for Annadelle. Her recess is toward the end of the day, so we have pulled up to get in the car rider line and noticed Annadelle away from the other kids under the awning with her wonderful para, Miss Jen (as Annadelle calls her). She has a very small tub with legos to play with. Meanwhile, other kids are on the playground or sitting at benches eating their snacks. I brought this up to Debbie, the director I emailed, because I had specifically asked that Annadelle not be isolated during recess and mentioned the “play box” idea that a few other AFM parents had recommended in the parent group.

I know this may seem petty to some readers, but schools are actually required to ensure a playground is accessible for children with special needs. In this case, it may be as easy as pouring a pad in the playground instead of having mulch, or installing a wheelchair swing, etc. I know Annadelle may be the only child needing this right now, but who is to say other students won’t need it in the future?

School is otherwise going wonderfully for Annadelle. She is understanding the homework pretty well and we are reading every night. I make her read along with me and say the words that she knows. We also practice ABC, number, and sight word flashcards quite a bit. It seems we may have finally gotten into a routine, although having the problems with my back/leg disappear would be fantastic.

I’ve been looking for a job. I’ve applied to approximately 873985738497589374587345897389475893745897348957 jobs and have yet to get a call back from one. I even applied at Target, a job well below my skillset, and got an email saying I didn’t meet their minimum criteria. Obviously, I’ve been feeling like a total failure and am extremely stressed about it.

I did manage to get accepted to Columbia Southern University. I’m trying to finish my bachelor’s, but I switched my major from Nursing to Information Technology & Cybersecurity. After being in the hospital for 5 months with Annadelle, I never want to step foot inside a medical facility again unless I have to. My heart races and I feel sweaty every time I walk into a hospital or doctor’s office, and I think it is safe to say I’m a bit traumatized from the entire experience.

When thinking about what I wanted to swap my major to, I chose IT because I have always had a knack for it and am obviously tech-savvy. Did you know I know HTML and can create databases from code in Microsoft Access? I am self-taught and did all that for fun, which apparently makes me a bit of a weirdo! And to think- my parents told me all that time in the basement on AOL wouldn’t do me a bit of good. 😉

Luckily, all of the classes are online. I have an option to do it at my own pace or enter the term classes. I believe I have 57 credits, but CSU may not accept all of those for an IT major. I’ve been applying for scholarships left and right, some with essays and some not. It’s a full time job just figuring out how to pay for the courses!

Last night I used the HealerTech FlexrGo! on Annadelle’s legs to see if there would be any response. It has been a while since I checked her left leg/foot, and I was unable to get a response on her anterior tibialis or gastrocnemius. I was so bummed because of all the people who had said she had been moving it, but it looks like nothing is there. I did manage to get a small response on her right quad. I am really praying her quad wakes up because she would have much better control in her walker with it. She is able to stand well in the walker (with braces only), but is slow to move around. She is starting to put weight on the left leg just barely. Basically, we have seen great gains from the waist up, but her legs are not making much progress at all.

This is Cami, part of our extended AFM family who was diagnosed in 2016.

I tried to encourage her yesterday by showing her videos of Cami, a little girl whose grandmother we know through the AFM parent page. Cami was diagnosed with AFM in 2016 as complete quadriplegic and has made miraculous progress over the years. She is now walking with a KAFO (no walker). Her story is so inspiring to me and I was hoping it would be for Annadelle, too.

I showed her videos of Cami at Disney World, dancing with her dad and grandmother. Annadelle loved the design on Cami’s KAFO and kept asking if we could fly out to meet her. “We can see Matthew, too!” she said.

Speaking of Matthew, he is undergoing nerve transfer surgery this week in St. Louis with Dr. Moore. Please keep our extended family (Frances, Mike, and Matthew) in your prayers!

I have actually been questioning whether or not we made the right decision to skip out on a nerve transfer. I don’t think her arms need it, as she is continually making great progress with both arms, but I think at least one leg needs some help. Chris is absolutely adamant that we do not proceed with a nerve transfer so the topic has been a source of conflict for us. Chris says that the research will say something like, “7 of 10 patients with nerve transfers showed progress”, but it won’t include any information about the other 3 patients or even progress of patients without nerve transfers. There was a series of podcasts from the TMA about nerve transfers that featured Dr. Amy Moore, the physician we consulted with about nerve transfers, but I did not listen to them. I felt like it would be a biased conversation and our experience with Dr. Moore’s office left a bad taste in my mouth. I felt like we were just a number, and our decision not to do the surgery wasn’t even a second thought from their office. I guess had we at least received a call from Dr. Moore, we may have reconsidered, but overall we just did not feel comfortable with it at the time.

I have been reading on nerve decompression lately, but don’t know enough to really talk about it. It might be an option in the future. I would have to do more research to give more information.

Anyway, I say all that because I’m obviously struggling. Emotionally. Financially. Spiritually. I’m on the struggle bus. I could really use some prayers.

I’d also like to ask that you pray for Annadelle, for complete healing for her and for us to see progress in her legs.

July 9, 2019

Since my last update, there have been a lot of changes in our lives. First, Chris’ youngest son, Hayden, moved in with us. He is 17 years old and is starting in to his junior year. He’s been doing summer workouts 3 days a week and got a job at a car wash, so he has met plenty of people and made friends quickly. Annadelle loves having Hayden here.

Updates are few and far between nowadays because progress is much slower. Although we see therapists or doctors pretty often, each day is pretty much the same ol’ same ol’.

It wasn’t until today that I was able to see the visual representation of the progress she has made. To be honest, I don’t see the progress like others do because I see her every day. But for those who go months without seeing her, the progress is much more evident.

In June, my sister-in-law, Heather, came down with her two boys, Eli and Asher. The boys are wonderful with Annadelle and they are really good about including her in whatever they do. They each love to be her little helpers.

While they were here, we all went bowling for the first time since Annadelle’s AFM onset. It turns out she really loves to bowl with help of the ramp. She was able to pick up a 6 lb ball easily and put it up on the ramp which is a big improvement. She is slowly getting stronger.

Our family also had a family reunion in Orange Beach during the month of June. Several of our extended family members have been keeping up with Annadelle’s progress on Facebook and were excited to see her in person. Some of our family members gave Annadelle some money while we were there. Later that week, we spent it on a Nintendo Switch which is something the recreational therapists used while we were at KKI in Baltimore. We were hoping it would help Annadelle with her left hand coordination and fine motor skills. And alas, it did because a week later Annadelle was able to give a “thumbs up” on her left hand for the first time since she got sick.

Later on, Annadelle and I traveled back to our hometown to attend VBS at my mother-in-law’s church. Annadelle used to go there with her Granna on Wednesday nights so the church members know her very well.

The first day I dropped her off, I felt very overwhelmed. Taking care of her all by myself was extremely difficult because I am used to sharing the duties with Chris. Needless to say, the first day of VBS I was an emotional (and physical wreck). As I watched her struggle to fit in on the first day, my emotions got the best of me. I went to my car and cried. I don’t even know how to explain what emotion I felt. The closest thing I can think of is “powerless”.

As a mother, all I wanted to do was to make sure she fit in. I didn’t fit in a lot as a kid. There were times I was picked on and left out. Even as an adult I have been left behind by friends as they find newer, better friends to hang around with on more than one occasion. It’s an ongoing issue that I really struggle with, and I guess I projected a lot of that fear from what happens to me to it happening to my child, especially now that she is disabled. It was always a fear of mine and is now a billion times worse so my emotions simply engulfed me in worry and sorrow as I sat there in my car.

Luckily, I was able to call one of very few friends I have and let it out. She reminded me of God’s promise and helped me to calm down. I think I really did have a panic attack.

By the end of the week, my fears proved to be nothing as Annadelle made many friends. The VBS staff were wonderful with her and I’m so glad she had such a wonderful time.

While we were In Calhoun county, we were able to see a lot of our family again. My cousin/more-like-a-sister Robin and Heather, along with our kids, went to see Toy Story 4 at the new cineplex in Pell City. The kids had a blast just being kids.

Annadelle is continuing therapy 3 times a week until school starts. We don’t have a schedule for when school starts but we are hoping to go at least 2-3 days a week. She will be evaluated for PT and OT at school after a few weeks. Right now we are working on her IEP and will meet with the team on the 18th to discuss the draft. Annadelle is so excited to be going back to school. As for me, I’m an absolute mess over it.

At the end of June, we were blessed to receive Annadelle’s new orthotic braces. She got an AFO for her right leg in the hopes it would help her with the hyper extension of that leg. She also got a KAFO for her left leg since she is not able to bear weight on it very much. He quads and glutes are firing in that leg, but she is still very weak. The KAFO just helps her to support the weight of that leg.

While in therapy, one of our goals is for her to be able to walk with the assistance of a walker. Getting used to walking is one thing, but learning to navigate and support yourself on a walker is another. It is a very slow process but we are praying that in a few months she will be walking with the walker. I wish I could express what an absolute blessing that would be for Annadelle. I have prayed for that continuously and respectfully ask that if you’re reading, you do the same.

The day she was fitted for the braces, she stood by herself for about 45 seconds to a minute. This was the first time she had stood by herself since the onset. I did not realize just how tall she had gotten until then. My little girl isn’t so little anymore. I feel like I missed so much of her growth while in the hospital. When she was admitted, it seems that she was so tiny. Now she’s a “kid”. I’m having a hard time with that realization.

We have ordered a Crocodile walker for Annadelle. We think it will arrive within 2 weeks.

Annadelle was also approved for an Amtryke (adaptive bicycle) through the local AMBUCS chapter. I’m not sure when it will come in, but I was told the chapter is covering the entire cost of the bike which is over $600. What a blessing! She has used the bike before at KKI and Children’s for therapy. The bike will allow her to spend some time outside having fun while also getting in a little therapy for her legs to help strengthen them.

Lastly, I’d like to share this amazing progress Annadelle has made after receiving chiropractic treatment. In conjunction with therapy, you can see in the comparison XRay just how much her posture and core strength have improved. The first X-ray was taken at the beginning of May, the second one was taken yesterday. I am just in shock of how much these treatments have helped in a relatively short period of time. I am so thankful to our friend John who referred us to GCFC.

I’m hoping to have another update soon of Annadelle walking in a walker independently! I am praying it will come soon. Please help me to pray for that. As always, thank you for the continued support.

Until next time…